Parenting Children with Difficult Behaviours
Does your child often:
- Seem angry
- Lose their temper
- Deliberately annoy others
- Refuse to do as they are asked
- Blame others for their mistakes
- Get annoyed easily
- Act resentful or be spiteful
- …and does this occur a lot more than is appropriate for their age? Is this interfering with home life, or with friendships or at school?
Why might this be happening?
- There are a variety of reasons for such behaviour and a range of possible causes need to be canvassed
- Temperament, modelling and genetics can sometimes play a part
What can be done to help?
- Learning specific techniques to manage difficult behaviour is often necessary. Minimising inconsistent or explosive discipline can help, as can removing ‘accidental rewards’ for certain behaviours (e.g. like paying attention to a child who is acting out)
- Emotion Coaching can help
- Teaching an awareness of emotions and how to regulate them
- Building empathy in the child
- Understanding Attachment
- The importance of connection
- The irony of secure attachment
- How to reward with rich attachment cues, and discipline with neutral attachment cues
- Understanding parenting
- The role of attribution (how the way we think about the causes of difficult behaviour helps or hinders how we cope with it)
- The role of warm but firm parenting
- Mirroring your child to build self esteem
- The parenting team
Contact the psychologists at Brilliant Minds Psychology if you need help to understand and manage your child’s difficult behaviour.