Parenting Children with Difficult Behaviours

Does your child often:
  • Seem angry
  • Lose their temper
  • Argue
  • Deliberately annoy others
  • Refuse to do as they are asked
  • Blame others for their mistakes
  • Get annoyed easily
  • Act resentful or be spiteful
  • …and does this occur a lot more than is appropriate for their age? Is this interfering with home life, or with friendships or at school?

Why might this be happening?
  • There are a variety of reasons for such behaviour and a range of possible causes need to be canvassed
  • Temperament, modelling and genetics can sometimes play a part

What can be done to help?
  • Learning specific techniques to manage difficult behaviour is often necessary. Minimising inconsistent or explosive discipline can help, as can removing ‘accidental rewards’ for certain behaviours (e.g. like paying attention to a child who is acting out)
  • Emotion Coaching can help
  • Teaching an awareness of emotions and how to regulate them
  • Building empathy in the child
  • Understanding Attachment
  • The importance of connection
  • The irony of secure attachment
  • How to reward with rich attachment cues, and discipline with neutral attachment cues
  • Understanding parenting  
  • The role of attribution (how the way we think about the causes of difficult behaviour helps or hinders how we cope with it)
  • The role of warm but firm parenting
  • Mirroring your child to build self esteem
  • The parenting team

Contact the psychologists at Brilliant Minds Psychology if you need help to understand and manage your child’s difficult behaviour.